I had an abortion at an age most women would not expect to be pregnant, 41. That is why I was so surprised it happened. I was seeing/sleeping with a much younger guy. Because of my age, I guess I didn’t think I needed to “be careful” anymore. I was wrong. When I told the guy I was pregnant, he said ” I thought women your age didn’t get pregnant.” When it came time to terminate the pregnancy, I asked if he could take to the clinic, he couldn’t, he had a “test” that day, right. Anyway I went alone to the clinic. Never felt more alone with a group of women. No one talked to each other or made much eye contact. I opted for the surgical procedure, as I had school that night and had to go to work the next day. I told no one except a women from one of my classes, she was very understanding. She originally came from a former Soviet Block country where it’s legal and open. She said she had one and it was no big deal. My gynecologist did seem to think so. I was soundly taken to task for having to resort to doing this and demanded that I start birth control. In my younger days, I would have felt shame, but not now. I stood up for myself. Now I’m 51, never had a child, but I have no regrets on what I did. But I do think there is,a lot of stigma attached to abortiono in the U.S.A.
Share your story here and it might be featured on the site.