In my Sophomore year of college I got pregnant after drinking too much at a party. It was stupid and 100% my fault, but I was still a 20 year old kid. I went to the doctor because I thought I had a cyst and found out I was pregnant and had been bleeding (what I thought was my period) due to strain on my uterus (I ran A LOT in college and shouldn’t have been running so much pregnant, but I didn’t know). The doctor immediately gave me information on motherhood and adoption. She did not once mention abortion as an option. Coming from a very religious family, I knew when they found out I’d have no other option. I knew I wasn’t ready to have a child–I didn’t even know what I wanted to be yet. I decided to give the baby up for adoption. I had no attachment to him–I didn’t even know the father. Ten years later, now that I’m having a child with a partner I love, I think back to the choice I made and I wish I’d made a different choice. Pro-life does not necessarily make the woman feel better. I wish I’d had an abortion and been given more information to access, because I now feel something that should be new and exciting with my current partner is not as special as it could be. I can personally attest that even though people think abortion is the wrong decision, it’s right for some. Giving up that year of college, losing my body to another, and struggling years after to feel better about myself was not worth growing a life when I wasn’t ready. Not having my medical provider give me access to ALL options available was wrong on her part as well. Women should have access and information to all choices available. We should then support them in whatever decision they make, because no matter what anyone says, these decisions are never made lightly.
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